Social Media and Our Kids
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The Scarsdale PT Council is pleased to announce a timely and informative panel for parents of school-age kids. "Social Media and Our Kids' Online Lives" will take place on January 16th at 7:30pm in the Scarsdale Middle School auditorium.
Experts from the Scarsdale schools will present practical advice to help parents navigate the fast-changing world of social media and the internet. The panel will include Jerry Crisci, Director of Technology at Scarsdale Public Schools, who will offer insights into the technical side; and Deena Paradiso, House Counselor at Scarsdale Middle School, who will address the social and emotional effects of all this online activity on kids.
While studies have shown that there are tangible benefits for kids who use social media—including increased communication and ease of access to information—there can be some real downsides as well. "Social media services, like Facebook, Twitter, and Edmodo, offer students wonderful opportunities to connect and collaborate with others, but parents and students need to understand how to appropriately use these powerful tools," says Crisci. "We look forward to sharing our expertise and experiences with Scarsdale parents in this highly interactive session."
A brief PT Council business meeting will precede the presentation at 7:30pm.
How to Talk to Your Children About Sexuality
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On Thursday, January 17, 2013 at 7:30 pm, the community is invited for a lecture by The Reverend Debra W. Haffner, author of, From Diapers to Dating: How to Talk to your Children from Birth to Adolescence about Sexuality Issues. Rev. Haffner will touch on Values Exercises to help you identify and communicate your beliefs to your children, Special Issues to advise you on discussing difficult topics, and Teachable Moments to help you recognize opportunities or entry points into a discussion of important issues.
The Reverend Debra W. Haffner is Co-founder and President of Religious Institute, Inc. An ordained Unitarian Universalist minister, she is also the endorsed community minister with the Unitarian Church in Westport, CT. Rev. Haffner was the chief executive officer of SIECUS, the Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States, from 1988 through May 2000. During her tenure at SIECUS, she created the Religious Declaration on Sexual Morality, Justice, and Healing; the National Coalition to Support Sexuality Education; the Commission on Adolescent Sexual Health; and the Guidelines for Comprehensive Sexuality Education, Kindergarten - Grade Twelve.
Rev. Haffner is the author of several guides for congregations on sexuality as well as two award-winning books for parents: From Diapers to Dating: A Parent's Guide to Raising Sexually Healthy Children and Beyond the Big Talk: Every Parent's Guide to Raising Sexually Healthy Teens. Her most recent book is What Every 21st Century Parent Needs to Know: Facing Today's Challenges with Wisdom and Heart.
This event is free and open to the public at Westchester Reform Temple, 255 Mamaroneck Road, in Scarsdale, N.Y. For more information: call the temple at 914-723-7727 or visit www.wrtemple.org.
League of Women Voters Seeks Students to Attend Albany Conference
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The League of Women Voters of Scarsdale seeks high school students who attend Scarsdale schools or reside in the school district to attend the statewide Students Inside Albany conference from April 14 to 17, 2013. Sponsored by the LWV of New York State Education Foundation, this interactive conference is designed to increase students' awareness of their responsibilities in a representative government and to provide the tools necessary for meeting that responsibility. The conference will bring together high school students from across the state to learn about New York State government and the process by which citizens can participate in the policy-making arena. Students will also tour the Capitol and observe both the Senate and Assembly in action by spending an afternoon shadowing their legislators.
High school sophomores, juniors and seniors are invited to apply. Applicants will be asked to show how they will make the most effective contribution to the conference and benefit most from the experience. Two students will be selected, and all expenses for the conference (including travel and hotel) will be covered by the LWV of New York State and the Scarsdale LWV. The participants will receive a student membership in the LWV of Westchester, which includes an e-mail newsletter and invitations to meetings on government related topics.
For an application or more information, contact Joan Frankle, Scarsdale LWV (914-713-1250 or [email protected]). Application forms are also available at the Scarsdale LWV's website (LWVS.org) and must be received by January 14.
Helping Our Children Cope with the Tragedy in Newtown
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This article was contributed by psychologists Michelle Sanders and Karen Bergsman of Scarsdale. The tragedy of the shootings in Newtown, CT has struck a chord with many of us here in Scarsdale. Our communities are strikingly similar. We moved here for the good schools, safe neighborhoods and a solid sense of community. The events in Newtown oppose the natural laws of society where children are not to be harmed and teachers are to be respected. When unexpected tragic events happen, especially involving the murder of children at an elementary school, our initial reaction may be to protect our own children from hearing and talking about these events. In fact, psychological research related to children and trauma indicates that providing information, specific to their development and ages, is important in helping them to cope with frightening and horrific real life events.
When we want to help our children cope with tragedy, it is crucial that we ourselves do a couple of key things to manage our own feelings so that we don't transmit our own complex reactions to our children. Children are especially good at sensing parents' feelings and attitudes and we want to minimize their exposure to our angst. We need to project a sense of calmness, reassurance and competence in our ability to cope with real-life frightening events. As parents, we can be models for our children on how to manage strong emotional reactions to frightening and unexpected events. We should address our own feelings by talking with other adults in our support systems and find private time to express our own grief, sadness, anger and worry.
What to do about the kids:
Listen:
Allow children to tell you what they may have already heard. As difficult as this may be, it allows children an outlet to express some of their feelings and perceptions. It also provides parents an opportunity to clarify myths or rumors. Limit excessive media exposure as much as possible. This is especially difficult due to children's access to the internet and other forms of electronic news. Instead, try to focus on family based discussions. The take home message for children is that there is no right or wrong way to feel and that whatever they feel is "OK" and can be talked about freely.
Inform:
For very young children, up to about four years of age, parents may choose not to discuss the shootings unless the child initiates the topic. If children do bring up the topic, a simple explanation coupled with reassurance should be sufficient. At this age, children not directly related to the trauma will not be able to process a tragedy so far removed from their lives.
For elementary school children, research consistently indicates that children benefit from being told the truth about unexpected, tragic situations. This may seem counterintuitive to parents, but children of this age will likely discuss this among themselves and hear information that may be incomplete, inaccurate or exaggerated. Provide basic, concrete information and be available to answer their questions. We can and should validate the unexpected nature of the shootings as well as the ensuing sadness. It is especially important for adults to avoid becoming overwhelmed by their own emotions in front of their children. It's helpful to have discussions during a non-stressful part of the day.
Middle school children may have strong personal opinions about how and why the shootings happened. Be prepared for children to talk more in depth about the incident. They may also express a desire for specific information. It's important to provide accurate information, although graphic details do not need to be emphasized. Early adolescence is a particularly vulnerable age as children are struggling to make sense of the world and their feelings. Some children may show anger and frustration while others may choose to keep their feelings to themselves.
More than any other group, high school students can grasp the depth and magnitude of the shootings and they are likely to demonstrate a variety of emotions and reactions. Their feelings may vacillate between indifference and intense curiosity. They may express strong feelings of anger and injustice or they may turn their feelings inward and become less verbal. They are also more likely to process their reactions with their peers, however it is especially important for parents to facilitate discussions at home.
Reassure:
For all children, it is important to emphasize that what happened in Newtown is a rare occurrence. Reassure children that schools are safe places and that safety measures are in place to protect them. Discuss the many fun and important activities they do at school and emphasize the many positive aspects of going to school and participating in school activities. Children function best with structure, therefore, routines should be kept as normal as possible. Predictability fosters security.
In the days and weeks to come, parents should continue to observe their children's emotions and behaviors. Significant changes in sleep, appetite, activity level and mood may be indicative of excessive anxiety or emotional distress that should be addressed by a mental health professional.
Michelle Sanders, Psy. D. has a doctorate in Child Clinical Psychology. Karen Bergsman, Psy. D. has a doctorate in Clinical Psychology. They both reside with their families in Scarsdale and together they direct a private practice known as, "Dr. Moms New York". They can be reached directly at 914-509-5439 or via email at [email protected]. In addition to individual and group therapy, Drs. Sanders and Bergsman are planning several community based educational seminars related to life stressors and the promotion of healthy and positive individual and family functioning.
Christmas Tree Lighting in Scarsdale Village
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The annual tree lighting in Scarsdale Village took place on Friday December 7. The gloomy weather didn't stop the fun as kids lined up for s'mores and hot chocolate supplied by Lange's and to listen to the Hoff Barthelson Christmas Carolers. Once Santa arrived, the tree was lit up and kids were treated to candy canes courtesy of Imagine Candy while they waited to tell Santa what was on their gift lists.
Also on hand were Mayor Miriam Flisser with her husband Harvey, and former Mayor Carolyn Stevens and Lewis Arlt from the Scarsdale Chamber of Commerce who sponsored the event. The tree went live at 5 pm – and the lights are magnificent. Make sure you stop by Scarsdale Village to enjoy it. Parking downtown is free for the holiday season.
